Parenting Young Adults Isn’t For The Weak
Raising adults is proving to be way more of a challenge than raising children. How do you do it? What’s your strategy and how do you know you’re doing a good job?
Thank You For Your Service.
In honor of Veterans Day, the writer pays tribute to her father and his fellow service members who sacrificed for their country. The father’s impactful experiences in the Vietnam War, his struggles with trauma and the lack of adequate reintegration support are highlighted. The writer urges the importance of beyond-verbal gratitude including active support and…
Superpowers & Purposes
I recently started listening to a new podcast: Angie Martinez- IRL (In Real Life) and quickly fell in love with it. I was born and raised in Queens, NY, so I’m very familiar with one of the most well known radio personalities in NY, Angie Martinez. I’m not a huge follower of podcasts, I prefer…
Do You and Your Partner Debrief?
I questioned whether to use the word ‘debrief’, but I think its fits properly for the conversation. Going out into the world these days, dealing with the day and living to make it back home to tell the story, debrief seems to be fitting. Communication in relationships varies. Every couple communicates differently. Every friendship communicates…
So… I Don’t Listen… Allegedly
I’ve learned that I listen differently as I get older and as I add responsibilities to my plate- not worse though. Although I “skim-listen” to some things, I’m pretty great at the things I do. How do you listen?
Are We Protecting or Debilitating Our Kids In Order To Give Them Better Lives Than We Had?
My kids are living a very different life than I lived. Some of it is charmed and carefree and some is nerve wracking. I grew up in South Jamaica, Queens, NY and they are growing up in the suburbs of Harford County, MD. I got ass whoopings and they get stuff taken away. I paid…
Can Guests Overstay Their Welcome?
How in the world do you get people to leave your house? Clearly if they’re inside and staying over, you don’t mind their company, even enjoy it and at some point or another- they were invited or allowed in. While hosting can be fun, at times, it can feel overwhelming and less like bonding. I’ve…
Don’t Judge Me- My Quirks Are…Quirky
Everyone has weird quirks. I have a few myself that may seem strange or odd. I am going to preface this article by saying that many of you may think that I’m a bit different or “touched” as the older women in my community would say. I’ll take that. But I know my real people…
Are Your Kids Decision-Making Partners?
I don’t know if “modern day” parenting or “progressive” parenting is a real thing or term, but I feel like my husband and I are doing it. It could be just regular ol’ parenting. We ask a lot of questions and I in particular, ask “how do you feel,” and “what do you think about…
All Night Long? Do People Still Have Sex for Hours Straight?
Originally written in 2015… Do you remember what foreplay used to be? The time you and your partner spent caressing one another and kissing like high school kids. Do you remember the sensual massages, the strawberries and cream? Do you remember taking a half hour just to light candles all around your room and lay…
Why Write Now?
What have you experienced in your life that caused you to take a second look at how you are living? Are you doing the things in your life that make you happy? While you are making your bucket list, are you also working to accomplish those things? Life can seem like it is too short,…
What Are You Obsessed With In Order To Avoid It?
What kinds of behaviors do you exhibit based on past experiences? You may not even realize the things you repeat or the things you avoid because of memories or actions that were or are part of your life. That is why I think I am obsessed with alcohol. It has been a part of my…
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